Tuesday, March 31, 2009

MarriAgE

Hmm.. First of all I want to share my opinion about marriage. I feel that marriage is very important in someone's life, and the most important thing in a marriage is the love between the couple. Therefore, I believe that a marriage can be a happily ever after tale if we can choose our Mr. or Ms. Right. ;)




Honestly, I have been changing the qualities of my Mr. Right as I grow older and older :). When I was in Primary School, I hoped that my husband would be handsome, rich, and all other best criterias of the physical appearance of a guy. However, now I realize that we must not choose a guy because of how they look like in the outside but how they look like in the inside.



I know that may be it is a very cliche statement as most of the girls, including me, will look at the handsome guys first and then will put our attention to them rather than to the average guys. But I feel it's because nowadays I do not really want to find a serious boyfriend and the 'hunting' for the handsome guys is just for fun hohoho :)





Eventually, I hope that my future husband will be....




  • Loyal..

Loyalty is the most important thing for me, especially when you want to step into the marriage life. As a girl, and I think most of the girls will have the same feeling as me, I hate to be cheated by anyone and it will make it worse when the one who you really trust cheats you. I do agree that this characteristic is quite difficult to be detected in a person when we just know him/her, but as the time flies, I feel that we can roughly know how loyal is the person and if he/she becomes our boyfriend/girlfriend, it will be more obvious.


  • Diligent..


When I was in lower secondary, I put one of the quality of my boy to be smart, but after I thought about it deeper, I feel that the intelligence of my boy must not be super, at least average, but then he should be diligence. This character will enable someone who is average to be better than someone who is smart but lazy, thus diligence is more important than intelligence. With this diligency, I hope my partner can achieve success in career as well as in other aspects of life.



  • Calm..

I think most of you know that I am not a type of girl who is calm and can control my emotion very well :P, and thus I need a guy who can calm me down when I am too emotional (either too happy or too sad). I do not wish to have a guy who is as 'crazy' as me for sure.



  • Understanding..

Owh come on who doesn't want to have a spouse that can understand your feeling and know what he/she should do when you behave in a way or another? Since you only can understand a person after being close to him/her for a long time, I do not mind to have a very long time relationship, because, even you have a very long time relationship you also still can break up and just realize that your spouse is not the one for you after the long time spent with him/her. In addition, I am prefer to break up before the marriage compared to divorce.

  • Open-Minded..

I wish in my marriage, my spouse and I will be able to discuss about any decision that one of us will take and especially if the outcomes of that decision will have effects on us. If he has an open-minded, he can ponder about my thinking as well and does not take the decision just based on his thinking.

  • Neat and Clean..

I am a messy girl and not so artistic in decorating house,etc. therefore I desperately need somebody who can 'mantain' a good living condition in my home and I wish the somebody will be my husband hehehe.. :) He should not be very very neat and very very artistic though, as long as he can arrange all the furniture in our house nicely and clean, I will be grateful of it hehehe ;P

  • Caring..

Most of the girls love to be taken care by their spouses so do I :)

I think those are the qualities that I hope my future spouse will be, however, I am not a super girl that has all the qualities in every guy's list. For example, I am not so neat in arranging my things at home :P and I feel that it might make some guys to think twice about choosing me as a wife hehehe.. Other than that I am also very careless, so I think my spouse should have patience on me and I feel some guys will not be able to take my behaviour. :(

Hmmm... I do have some positive qualities though hohoho

I loooovveee to cook.. hehehe Although now I just can cook some simple things but I want to improve my skill on some more complicated food and I guess most guys like their wifes to cook :)

I am quite a caring person especially for the one I love but I will not be over protective as I do not want the ones I love to do so to me as well :)

Other positive quality that I have is may be my ability not to spendthrift the money I have,so guys, you can relax a bit when your money is with me lol ;p

I feel those are the things that I can share for you right now ..

Kindly comment on my blog my friends and I will be happier if you can add up some of my positive (or even negative -_-') qualities of mine that may be I did not mention it earlier on..

Thanks for your willingness to spend time to read this anywae hohoho

=)

11 comments:

  1. bst dah, tanpa pengenalan dah langsung terjang aj ke marriage.ahaha

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  2. wow stefani... well done.. its a well written description of how u wan ur future to be... hope u will find the guy of yr dreams though its tough... good luck.. cheers!!

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  3. haha stefani this is areumm~~
    yes i agree it is fun to hunt handsome guys but you always say handsome boys always cause lots of problems. :D
    I saw the qualities that you will look for your future husband.Frankly there will be numerous qualities required from our mr. Right.
    However is people always marry someone whom they imagine of? If not why does most girls still think about their spouses everyday?

    just wanted to ask a few questions.

    nice blog skin and thanks for reading my comment
    byebye -3-~

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  4. its really great... guys really should have all these 'properties' haahahahahahah of couse we should try to find our PERFECT match...

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  5. yoyoyo.....Hanwen is here:) I read through ur blog and I like the part you talking about your strengths.
    I think as a man, he would not like his wife to be a spendthrift. Nowadays, many girls are too materialistic. It’s not wrong enjoying spend your own money. But when it comes to a family, money spending is no longer your personal issue. I think in order to maintain a good marriage, at least one of them has to know how to do saving.
    I think the first thing a girl should learn before her marriage is know how to control her desire, think twice before buying useless stuff.
    :p It is not easy though, especially for teenage girls like us. But I think it suppose to be one of the most important qualities a good wife must have.
    So, Keep it up…..^-^

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  6. From Jed:

    Since you're good at cooking, I think that it is one of your arsenals in keeping your future husband close especially if he's a glutton. If your future husband likes the irresistible meal you cook, then I suppose that a divorce is unlikely to happen between you and your future husband. This is because when you cook for dinner everyday and he likes you dishes, then he will make the effort to come home early and eat. It's because of the husband always coming home late where the idea of divorcing starts because the wife suspects that the husband may be seeing others girls.

    Lol I think I had watched too many dramas.



    I agree with Hanwen that many girls nowadays are materialistic and there's nothing wrong enjoying to spend your own money. However, what I don't agree with is that at least one of them know how to do saving. I think that both of them should know how to save because if one spend too much, then the other person save too much, isn't that the same?

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  7. hello there..
    hmm..
    i also think that marriage is a wonderful thing..it's a bond between a man and a woman..
    and it's a sacral thing..
    hmm...i agree with your opinion about the type of man..
    Personally,, i want to say that..i'd like a romantic and i would like a man that can play musical instrument..
    it would be a great...hehe..hmm..
    i hope that u'll find the right guy..good luck...

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  8. @ Leen : Nice to meet you hohoho

    Owh yeah I forget about that quality hahaha
    romantic as well as always able to give surprises because I love surprises hahaha

    thanks a lot for the comment, c ya on your blog soon :)

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  9. Well, after seeing so many of your Blogs, I noticed that many of you are dreamer (not referring to Clark). Your dream towards marriage is wonderful, but not so realistic. Well, can’t blame yourself, us generation are influenced by dramas too much, especially those love stories. Dramas are for commercial uses. But in reality, I think very few couples can make an everlasting harmonious relationship. Not meaning that they’re gonna divorce. There’s one aspect I you mentioned I think can’t be everlasting. Royalty, it may exist in the first few decades of marriage, but you do know that no couples on earth can avoid having different views and values. Therefore argument between the 2 can always exist. When argument reaches certain extent, problems do occur, and misunderstandings do happen. Therefore, you may expect your husband to be loyal to ya most of the time. I dun really wanna explain much, why don’t you visit my blog and tell me about how do you think?

    Besides that, I think your views are quite quite mature, realistic, not really material and perfectistic, but to most couples, your dream, indeed, is a luxury.

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  10. Well Kim, i know its not realistic
    but once dream, dream for the best, just dont put much faith in it.

    no harm done rite...

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  11. Anh!!!! I like your opinion!!! hahaha :)

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